Love says, "I am sorry"

Love Says, "I'm Sorry."

Love means never having to say, "I'm sorry." Did the movie Love Story get it right when it advised us that true love means never having to say, "I'm sorry?"  I don't think so, for one simply reason - we are all human.  And humans are not perfect. All of us end up hurting the persons we love most. Having a good marriage does not demand perfection, but it does require us to apologize when we fail.   When I say, "I'm sorry" I'm expressing regret that my words or behavior have brought pain to you. When is the last time you said, "I'm sorry," to your husband or wife? If it's been a while, then you probably owe them an apology. Love means always being willing to say, "I'm sorry."   There's more to an apology than saying "I'm sorry." Perhaps you have said, "I'm sorry,"  but your spouse is finding it hard to forgive you. So you feel frustrated and are saying to yourself, "I apologized what else can I do?" If you really want to break down the barriers, ask your spouse this question: "What can I do to make this up to you? I know I hurt you and I feel badly about it, but I want to make it right. I feel like I want to do something to show you that I love you."   This is far more powerful than simply saying "I'm sorry." Here you are trying to make restitution. You are trying to demonstrate that you really care about your relationship.  After all, what your spouse wants to know is "are you sincere in your apology?" Why are you sorry? When you apologize to your spouse, what do you say? For many the answer is: "I'm sorry." But do you tell them what you are sorry for? An apology has more impact when it's specific. "I'm sorry that I got home late. I know that you worked hard to be ready on time, and I show up 15 minutes late. I feel badly that I've made you wait. I hope you will forgive me and we can still have a good evening." This kind of apology communicates that you are aware that your behavior inconvenienced your spouse and that you feel badly about it. Here's one that you should never use.  "I'm sorry that you got hurt." That shifts the blame to your spouse. It says, "If you weren't so sensitive, everything would be all right." Far better to say, "I'm sorry that my behavior hurt you."    Wait.... who's to blame? "I'm sorry, but if you had not provoked me, I would not have lost my temper." That is not an apology. It is blaming your spouse for your poor behavior. Sincere regret needs to stand alone. It should not be followed with "But..." One husband said, "Her apologies always come across as attacks on me. She says she's sorry, but then she turns around and blames me. To me that's not an apology." How about you? When you say, "I'm sorry," do you use the word "but"? If so, then you're not apologizing. You are blaming. You are creating resentment inside your spouse. They have a hard time forgiving you because in their mind you are not apologizing. In the future, try eliminating the "buts".   Taking responsibility for your behavior Sometimes we hurt people and don't realize it. It certainly was not intentional. Good marriages are fostered by expressing regret even when we didn't intend to hurt them. If you bump someone getting off an elevator, you probably say, "I'm sorry."  Why would you not do this with your spouse? You may not realize that your behavior has upset your spouse, but when it becomes apparent, then you can say, "I'm sorry that my behavior caused you so much pain. I didn't intend to hurt you, but I know I did. I feel badly about it, and I hope you will forgive me."   Sincere apologies make it easier for your husband or wife to forgive you. You don't have to be perfect to have a good marriage. But you must deal with your failures. "I'm sorry" is a key ingredient to a loving marriage. 　 Share your questions, thoughts, insights, or comments: Join the conversation on Facebook at facebook.com/5lovelanguages or the official The Five Languages of Apology Facebook page --> facebook.com/5languages

10 bible verses for every day life

10 bible verses for every day life:
 1. "Whoever conceals their sins does not prosper, but the one who confesses and renounces them finds mercy." Proverbs 28:13
 2. "Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end". Proverbs 29:11
 3. " give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus." 1 Thessalonians 5:18
4. " Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus." Philippians 4:6-7
5. "Do you not know? Have you not heard? The Lord is the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth. He will not grow tired or weary, and his understanding no one can fathom. He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint." Isaiah 40:28-31
6. " If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. If we claim we have not sinned, we make him out to be a liar and his word is not in us." 1 John 1:9-10
7. "What, then, shall we say in response to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us? 32 He who did not spare his own Son, but gave him up for us all—how will he not also, along with him, graciously give us all things?" Romans 8:31-32
8. "Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity. Colossians 3:12-14
9. "not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others." Philippians 2:4
10. " Listen to advice and accept discipline, and at the end you will be counted among the wise. Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails" Proverbs 19:20-21

Новый человек. тайна Божия

Олег Шелест: Новый человек, есть тайна Божья, она открыта стала мне, и я подумал не таиться и подарить её тебе, мой друг, конечно знаешь ,человек был создан по образу подобию Творца из праха созданной земли ,где в это время живёшь и ты. Дыханье жизни в теле вот краса ну вообщем впрочем чудеса,наукой в наши времена, ещё не доказала ,ну и конечно не создала,пока мы отстаём от Мудрого Творца. и знаем мы что там в саду Эдемском росли два дерева ,одно Жизни а другое дерево познания добра и зла, двойную смерть человеку приносило, и знаем мы, что человек отведал плод познания добра и зла и смертью умер навсегда, и сметным стало дыханье жизни,и не имело божественной отчизны, и в рабство смерти отдана, в страданиях была душа, и вот родился ты, мой друг,узнав что была смерть Христа и воскресение ,и Дух Святой спустился,и ты есть Божие Дитя.и враг есть у тебя. Он называется грехом, что жалом смерти в твоём теле. на самом деле истина проста. чтоб вырастить внутри себя Творца с названием новый человек . Опять начнём дыханье жизни, есть царство жизни, и царь что именуем мы с тобою Я, и мысли в подчинении тебя, и сила их что чувствами зовётся ну и конечно рабочие друзья,что заставляют сердце биться желудку печени трудится. и в этом царстве, в дыхании жизни есть грех ,что преступает законы жизни что установлены Творцом. пример. ты раздрожен,нечистый дух вошёл в тебя и вызвал раздрожение,и мозговое напряжение, поднялось и давление. и в следствии , преграда Боль пришла остановив тебя, чтоб ты не раздражался и это ветхая природа человека,а новая природа без боли и раздрожения , новым человеком для нас зовётся ,и очень важно нам понять ,как новый человек растёт, чтоб получить нам благодать, без боли страхов и вреда, нам жизнь прожить до славы Господа. Представим, что наше тело многоэтажный дом , и духи жизни живут в нём, работая под властью дьявола,кормя нечистых духов приходящих по средством нашего греха, до разрушения тело доводя. Приходит время мы принимаем Господом Христа, и Дух Святой пришёл в Одну из комнат, а остальные комнаты наполнены нечистотой, их надо открывать чтоб Дух Святой наполнил их, Иисус напутствие нам дал как это сделать призвать имя Отца и Сына и Святого Духа,что делает Отец прощает грех,и очищает от неправды. Иисус Христос являет Свет и жизнь, а Дух Святой,Он наполняет чтоб дух нечистый в квартиру не вошёл. придя не сделал вам вреда. Так надо заполнять все комнаты и все места,тогда идём мы смело, на врага и жизнь вокруге разливаем, и светом Божьим освещаем. такие вот дела с рожденьем и ростом человека.

Sand art and what has changed my life

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Recipe for how to be content

Ecclesiastes 3:11

… He also set eternity in the hearts of men that they cannot fathom (измерять глубину) what God has done from beginning to end.

Of course our hearts and our souls want much more than we have now here on this earth.

In the book “Calm my anxious heart” written by Linda Dillow  there is a «recipe» -- how to be content with your life:

1. Never allow yourself to complain about anything even of the weather

2. Never imagine yourself in different circumstances or in a different place

3.  Never compare your life with someone else’s life

4.  Never allow yourself to wish that things would go differently

5. Never live tomorrow, remember tomorrow belongs to God not to us.

Matthew 6:31-34

So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.

God gave us enough energy for today. If we will be worrying about tomorrow and even further future then we will waste all the energy God has given to us for today to worry about what will possibly happen tomorrow or the other day. As a result we don’t have even energy for